Dear Lulu and Jules

I have lived with my 32-year-old girlfriend for two years. In the last six months, she's only wanted to make love when she's drunk. When I ask, 'How was it for you?' she can't remember a thing. I thought we had a long-term future. Do you think this sudden change means that she no longer fancies me?

JULES: Are you mad, man? Of course it does. You don't mention how often this occurs. If nightly, pack her bags (and her empty bottles) before you have a heart attack from the strain of giving your all to such an unresponsive audience.

Otherwise, tell the girl she doesn't know what she's missing - and that it has to stop. Some of your male colleagues may think your situation is a gift from the